January 29, 2007

A New Project?

Kim offered to give this Weeping Violets Sampler from Sweetheart Tree to a good home, and I totally fell in love with it. I love the soft purples and greens in it and it even had beads that I can play around with. THANKS KIM!!! *hugs*

Now, this broaches the topic of the 'sampler.' EK has been trying to get me interested in stitching these for the last couple of months now. The girl is addicted to them!! So much so that I've threatened her with no more sampler viewings on the occasion that she didn't do something... I forget what it is now. I realize, as I'm writing this, that my forgetfulness would render the threat useless. LOL!

Back to the topic of the sampler... I can't understand the involvement of the alphabet in them. A and I had a long chat about this, and we decided that since we know our ABCs, stitching them is quite redundant and boring. Now, EK and Novi insisted that the sampler was used in the olden days for the gentlewomen to learn their alphabet while sitting straight and tall in their sitting rooms embroidering and drinking tea! Shiver me timbers!!! Oh... the boredom!!!!

So what I would like to know, dear readers, is if it's against some kind of stitching rule to not stitch the alphabet and replace it with either a saying or our last name. Surely, something like "Love Conquers All" would mean a lot more in this household than ABCDEFGHIJKLMNOPQRSTUVWXYZ... then again, perhaps walking around singing the alphabet song at the top of our voices could be an interesting past-time. ;)

An Update, Finally!

Thought my stitchy muse had left me high and dry for a while there. But she's back, with a vengeance, and about damn time!! Missing stitching and not wanting to do it is hell!

Anyhooo, here is an update on Vis-a-vis that I'm stitching for A.

I had the hardest time stitching it in the hoop and HATED not being able to stitch two-handed. Since I didn't wanna spend money getting a lap stand, Satish rigged up a holder for me using piano wire and an extra scroll rod and my trusty frame, which made me a happy puppy indeed!! :D

If all goes well, the next update will be Meta in a few days. *fingers crossed*

January 28, 2007

The Solution

A quick update on the situation with the in-laws....

They went back to Oklahoma on the 24th, and had a talk with the sil and her husband the same night. I guess it went ok in terms of the money part, she agreed to give them a monthly allowance, but they will continue to stay there instead of moving here. They'll have more freedom in terms of my mil not having to cook for everyone, but they'll still help out with picking the kids up from school.

When I talked to them right after that, they didn't sound to happy but both said that this is the best solution for the time being.

Today's conversation with my mil found her sounding much happier, which I'm glad for. Was a little worried about them, but it all seems to be working out better now.

Funny thing, whenever I cook, it reminds me of her cos she redid my pantry and cabinets, and put everything neat and tidy into plastic containers and the like. ^.^

January 25, 2007

The Puppy in Me

EeKoon wanted me to do this, so here it is. It's very me, but did it have to be a beagle??? *whine* Hehehe, Michelle, yellow isn't my color, and beagles are not my favorite dogs. Bad experience... I'm such a whiner these days.

You Are a Beagle Puppy

Cheerful, energetic, and happy go lucky.
And you're sense of smell is absolutely amazing!

January 18, 2007

My Element

Saw this on Sean's blog, and since I'm sitting here really bored, figured I'd take the quiz too.

Why oh why oh why does my power color have to be yellow? Like seriously..... YELLOW?????!

Your Element is Earth

Your power color: yellow

Your energy: balancing

Your season: changing of seasons

Dedicated and responsible, you are a rock to your friends.
You are skilled at working out even the most difficult problems.
Low key and calm, you are happiest when you are around loved ones.
Ambitious and goal oriented, you have long term plans to be successful.

January 12, 2007

Mailart Finish

It's finally done with a few days to spare. The great thing about my mil being here is having another woman's viewpoint in my crafting. She gave me some really nice ideas which were incorporated in the finish. ^.^

I can't post any pictures yet because this is a surprise for a certain someone, and I don't want to spoil it, in case she reads this blog.

The main challenge now is getting to the post office on Monday. Those of you who know me well knows how big of an impossibility this could be. For those who doesn't have any idea about how bad I am at this, my nephew's birthday was on September 30th. His gifts were boughtm, boxed and ready to go in the beginning of January. It's still sitting under my breakfast bar!! Ai Lin will be taking it home with her in early Feb, cos accoring to her, it'll get there faster that way. And she's right. *thumps head*

The Last Week


It's been quite stressful around here over the last week with stuff happening with Satish's side of the family. My in-laws have been visiting over the last few weeks, and are having a grand ol' time. They're really easy to get along with, are very low maintenance. They came for their annual visit in December. I've been trying to get them to visit twice a year, but they've always felt that they're needed there more to help out, which I can totally understand, so they come for about 5-6 weeks every year to spend time with us.

Their daughter moved them here a couple of years ago, mostly to help her out with her 2 kids, and also cos their country wasn't too stable. She has a piece of land that's 5 acres, and built them a cottage a little ways from the house. It worked really well for everyone, my in-laws took care of the grandkids, picked them up from school, did their homework with them, my mil would make dinner and generally help out.

(I won't go into any details about $$ and such)

The problem lately is that Satish's bro-in-law, who isn't the nicest and most communicative person in the world, has been rude and generally very irritable and for some reason doesn't like my fil anymore and doesn't talk to him, which you can imagine creates a very uncomfortable atmosphere, and things have gone downhill really quickly.

Last week, my sis-in-law called them and said that her husband has been so happy lately, and he's cooking and helping out around the house, and is taking interest in what happens around the house again, and that when her parents got home, they'll have to talk. So, they were trying to decide what it was going to be about, if she wanted them to move to an apartment further away or something.

A few days ago, she called them and me and said that she'd like them to stay a month or so longer if possible, cos her husband has been really helpful lately, and he's told her that his kitchen didn't feel like his kitchen, cos my mom-in-law makes them dinner there. And that he needs his space and stuff. Now, they're not even around in the house much when he's there. They're usually in their cottage or out playing bridge or out with their friends.

So, of course, that really upset her parents, not to mention Satish. His mom cried the whole night and didn't sleep etc.

They decided the next day that they're going to move down here and stay with us, and then visit the grandkids. It was something they were still thinking about till she called them yesterday morning and asked them to go home as planned, and then come back end of Feb and go back there in the summer, cos the kids will be out of school, and she'll need their help to take care of them.

My father-in-law said that that's a lot of plane tickets to buy, and she said that she'll pay for them, and Satish and Joyce can split it with her. He hit the roof at that, and basically told her that we're just getting on our feet and it's going to be hard enough on us financially when they come and live with us, and now she wants us to pay for tickets cos them coming back and forth is convenient for her.

She called me both yesterday and I talked to her for a little bit and told her that I don't really want to be involved in the decision making, or take sides. That at the end of the day, it's their family, and I'm the outsider. So I will support what Satish and his parents decide, but that's all I will do. It's totally fine with me if her parents want to live with us but I've also told them that things won't be cream and roses all the time with 4 adults living together, but as long as we can talk things out and communicate, we can always work things out.

She told me that if it wasn't for the kids, she'd have kicked her husband out, so I asked her if she really thinks that choosing him over her parents is a smart thing to do, and if it's better for the kids to have him around in the long run. And she basically said that well, it's not an option cos of the kids and cos they're in catholic school, and sometimes it's hard for her husband cos his friends laugh at him for living with his in-laws. I didn't point out that he doesn't. They live in a separate structure!!

Last night, the 4 of us sat down and talked, and my poor mil was crying her heart out and finally told us that she's scared that if they moved down here, the same thing would happen. So I said that I can guarantee that it would never get that bad, cos we will make sure to communicate. That I'm sure that we'll have friction, but they're our parents, and we'll make things work.

I also did say that they cannot move down here and base their lives around us. They need to go out, do what they like to do, play bridge, make friends, etc and not feel like they have to be at home waiting for us to get back from work. And that Satish and I shouldn't feel like we have to rush home after work every night, and that if we feel like going out for dinner after work, there should be no hard feelings if I called and told them that we're going out to dinner.

The saga today: my sil called my mil and told her that she was very sorry, and that she didn't expect that this would become such a big deal, and she still needs them for the grandkids, and maybe they could go there in the summer and come back for 9 months out of the year.

My feeling is, don't cut the ties. At the end of the day, it's still family, but don't live their lives around the daughter's schedules and demands. I told them that if they're going to move down here, then they need to have a life here and live the retirement lifestyle. They've more than earned it!! And that this time should be theirs, and it's time that they're selfish about that. Go visit, but do it on their own schedule and time.

I feel so bad for them. If this happened to my parents, I'd be furious! I was talking to my cousin yesterday, and we were both saying that we'd never choose a guy, especially when he's a jackass, over our parents, but maybe it's easier said than done. I'd like to think not.

This makes me so sad for them. It breaks my heart.

January 7, 2007

A Thank You Note

This is going to be a different sorta post...

You guys are the BESTEST!!! Thanks for all the encouragement on the mailart thingy. I'm trying to be very good about it. Got the address part of it done and half of the back design stitched. Went to JoAnn's afterwork yesterday and picked up the backing material (which was 75% off... yippee!!!!) and some decoration stuff, so that's all good to go for stitching, hopefully scheduled for tomorrow.

Yes, Kim, we can do it. *fingers cross... breeeeeeathe*

Nikki.... ROFL, you called it about EK. The girl sure can stitch when she's threatened. ;)

January 4, 2007

Mailart Project

I've had months now to work on my mailart. It started out with looking through gorgeous stitching album. Next thing I know I was intrigued with the whole idea, so when Bonnie suggest a mailart SAL on the Crafty Coven, naturally I was all over it.

That.... was at least 2 months ago. Today, I mentioned on the forum that I'm going to work on my mailart tonight and nothing else, Wanda actually asked if that would be working on it or starting it. *gasp* (She's such a mom I swear. They can smell guilt a thousand miles away!)

Now, let me see if I can get the brevity of my situation across. I have to send out this thing by Jan. 15th!!!!! EGADS! I'm a pretty fast stitching, and granted, it's going to be a pretty quick stitch, but golly gee whiz, I still have to sew the thing together.

Ok, ok.... *deep, calming breaths* I'm freaking myself out here. It can be done, sure it can. Mmm-hmm... I'll keep telling myself that and that'll be that!! Power of positive thinking and all that jazz.

Oh yes... I have to remember to be stitching while telling myself that! Damn, almost forgot that minor detail....

New Start

A and I are starting early on our Christmas gifts this year. Ok... we started them towards the end of December, and ok... it's only our Christmas gifts for each other. But other's shouldn't feel left out, cos well umm... you might have something coming your way too. Cos really, it's only January, and December is oh, so far away! :D (Watch me scramble in November like I did last year, but let's talk about happier things *wink*)

I don't think A reads this blog, so I think I'm safe if I post the latest piccie for Vis-a-vis. The reason I say that is cos apart from her knowing which pattern I'm working on, the fabric and floss color/s are a surprise. Although, I have to admit, I'm kinda stressing out here cos I'm afraid that she'll hate the colors and I told her as much yesterday to the effect of "Ok, I'm not colorblind and I don't have bad taste!!" LOL!!

Everyone I've shown it to loves it... so dear readers, it's your turn to be my gauge. Oh yes, and I'm posting a piccie of the back of it, cos I'm kinda proud of this one.

Oh yes, the specs:
Fabbie: 25ct lugana, Sudden Storm from Silkweaver's Expressions line
Floss: Amethyst from Caron Waterlilies Collection